Divorce—Focus on the Children—Always
Now if you feel that you can't go on
Because all of your hope is gone
And your life is filled with much confusion
Until happiness is just an illusion
And your world around is crumbling down
The Four Tops- Reach Out, I'll Be There...
It's been sung about, written about, and
shown on the big screen thousands of times. But when it's in your
backyard..the alarm goes off and you're in it—big time!
It is time of unknowns, pleas for help and understanding. So much is happening, all at once, our first choice may simply be to run for cover. But learning from others' divorce mistakes can be a life saver.
In fact, my greatest pain and learning rained down upon me during my own divorce. At the time, I would never have imagined being in a position to help others as they navigated this circuitous and extraordinary painful process.
One of the most common mistakes is to think we can pull out of it all by ourselves-Lone Ranger Style...This is a time to recognize that it's OK to ask for help—as we would in the midst of a battle. Because it is a battle—and to keep our wits and sanity about us, we need to rely on the insights and support of others.
And as someone intimately familiar with
the man's perspective, I have learned through making one mistake after
another some painful lessons that could be eye openers for you.